Tuesday, May 7, 2013

For Indians only...I work for an Indian couple at a motel. What are some gift ideas for people from India?

Q. This would be gift ideas for a man and a woman for Christmas or Birthdays.

A. It varies a lot...gold and silver are always appreciated. A gift certificate or two to restaurants or bookstores are also good ideas.
I find Lance's comment highly offensive. If it was a joke, it was in poor taste.


How can i make my brother act grateful on Christmas?
Q. OK. So on christmas, if my brother doesn't like a gift, he acts like it. For example, he opened this really cool glasses/gloves pack (he likes building things) to protect him when he uses the dremel, and he goes "Dad, these are like your size." and my dads like "no, theyre your size look try them on" and my brothers like "yea thatll fit me in ten years." I was baffled! He didn't even say thank you or smile or anything! For some reason, seeing how ungrateful he acts makes me very very very sad. For some reason, i was never EVER EVER like that, even when i was 3 i knew to pretend you love everything even if you don't. I always act grateful and act like i love it so much. My brother does not. I try to say to him not to do that and he says he wont, but he does! m dad said to him when he acts like this on christmas, in a hurt way he said "oh.... sorry bud.... merry christmas?" he said that in a hurt way. I HATE when my brother does this. Again, it makes me feel depressed. i have no idea why. Please give me some suggestions on how to make my brother at least ACT grateful!
Also, i kind of dread christmas every year just because i feel so bad for the way my brother acts! I get soooooo sad!

A. You sound a very sensitive & smart individual. You do not need to be depressed because of your brother's behavior. If it is possible, you can talk/explain to your brother how you really feel about his ungratefulness. Be careful, when you talk to him, it is better to speak to him in "not blaming him" tone.

I do not know how old you are, but you also should share about your feelings and sadness with your parents. Your parents need to do something about your brother's behavior. He may grew out of it, but if not, he will be one of those "forever" unhappy shappy little men.

Unfortunately I do know many kids, even many adults who behave just like your brother does, Your brother needs some guidance and understanding. If he did not want to co-operate and/or have no empathy about others' feelings being hurt and continue to act as a brat, perhaps your parents should buy an airplane ticket to India as a Christmas gift, so that he can have a dream vacation in an Indian slum.

It is unfortunate, that how the Christmas became a holiday for gifts to each other, instead of just celebrating the Jesus's birthday, eat and be merry with family and friends.

Finally you can't change people, but you can change your attitude towards those people. Do not let your brother's bad behavior ruin your holiday. The harsh truth is in your life you will meet all kinds of people with nasty habits and behaviors. You will learn to deal with it.

A Happy Christmas!


Where did the annual celebration of the Birthday come from?
Q.

A. A birthday, as the term implies, is the anniversary of the particular day on which a person was born. Though by no means universal, such occasions are celebrated in numerous cultures, often with a party or, in some instances, a rite of passage.
Though major religious traditions such as the Buddhist or the Christian celebrate the birth of their founders, the most obvious example of which is Christmas, principled opposition to the very idea of celebrating birthdays is to be found among certain religious groups.
Cultural and legal conventions
In most legal systems, one becomes a legal adult on a particular birthday (often 18th or 21st), and at different ages gains different rights and responsibilities — voting, certain drug use (for example, alcohol, purchasing tobacco), eligibility for military conscription or voluntary enlistment, purchasing lottery tickets, vehicle driving licenses, etc.[citation needed]

Many cultures have one or more coming of age birthdays:

Jewish boys have a bar mitzvah on or around their 13th birthday. Jewish girls have a bat mitzvah on or around their 12th birthday, or sometimes on or around their 13th birthday in Reform and Conservative Judaism.
In some Christian traditions, generally Catholic and Anglican, Confirmation is the ritual by which a young person receives a Sacrament thought to bestow certain gifts of the Holy Spirit. The timing of the reception of this Sacrament serves, on a sociological level, as a sort of "rite of passage" into adulthood.
In Hispanic countries the quinceañera celebration traditionally marks a girl's 15th birthday.
Some girls and a few boys in the United States have "sweet sixteen" birthday parties.
In the United Kingdom 18th and 21st are traditional coming of age birthdays.[citation needed]
In some Asian countries, the 14th birthday is celebrated as the day one becomes a man, or a woman, in society.[citation needed]
Many Filipino girls celebrate their 18th birthdays with a cotillion and debutante ball, commonly known as a debut.[citation needed]
In India, the 12th or 13th birthday is replaced with a grand "thread ceremony." The child takes a blessed thread and wears it, symbolizing his coming of age. This ceremony is more common amongst boys in the Hindu culture.
The birthdays of historically significant people, like national heroes or founders, are often commemorated by an official holiday. Some saints are remembered by a liturgical feast (sometimes on a presumed birthday). By analogy, the Latin term Dies natalis is applied to the anniversary of an institution (such as a university).

A person's Golden or Grand Birthday, more commonly referred to as their "Lucky Birthday", "Champagne Birthday" or "Star Birthday", occurs when they turn the age of their birth day (e.g., when someone born on the 25th of the month turns 25).

[edit] Name days
In some Roman Catholic and Eastern Orthodox countries such as France, Russia, Bulgaria, Hungary, or Greece, it is common to have a 'name day'/'Saint's day'. This is celebrated in much the same way as a birthday, but is held on the official day of a saint with the same Christian name as the birthday person; the difference being that one may look up a person's name day in a calendar, or easily remember common name days (for example, John or Mary); however in pious traditions, the two were often made to concur by giving a newborn the name of a saint celebrated on its birthday, or even the name of a feast, for example, Noel or Pascal (French for Christmas and "of Easter").

[edit] Alternative birthdays
People born on February 29, which occurs only during leap years, often celebrate their birthday in other years on February 28, or March 1 (the first day they have, measured in whole years, a new age). .

In school, a half-birthday or other unbirthday is sometimes celebrated for those whose birthdays do not fall on a school day (especially for birthdays falling during holiday and vacation periods).

[edit] Official birthdays

Colored lanterns at the Lotus Lantern Festival in Seoul, South Korea, celebrating the Buddha's birthdaySome notables, particularly monarchs, have an official birthday on a fixed day of the year, which may not necessarily match their actual birthday, but on which celebrations are held. Examples are:

Jesus of Nazareth's traditional birthday is celebrated as Christmas Day around the world: 25 December. As some Eastern churches use the Julian calendar, 25 December falls on 7 January in the Gregorian calendar every year until 2100.
The King's or Queen's Official Birthday in Australia, Fiji, New Zealand, and the United Kingdom; in Canada this day is known as Victoria Day.
The Grand Duke's Official Birthday in Luxembourg: 23 June.
The King's official birthday in Belgium: November 15 (on saint Leopold, liturgical feast of the dynasty's founder's patron saint).[citation needed]
Koningsdag or Koninginnedag in the Kingdom of the Netherlands is fixed on 30 April (Queen's Day; celebration of the reigning Queen's accession). Queen Beatrix fixed it at the birthday of her mother, the previous Queen, to avoid the winter weather associated with her own birthday in January.
The 21st of August is the date on which the Irish celebrate the birthday of Aoife Cooper, the Druid Queen who was driven mad by secret love (Paramour).
While it is uncommon to have an official holiday for a republican head of state's birthday, this can become a permanent posthumous honour, for example George Washington's and Abraham Lincoln's birthdays are celebrated together as Presidents' Day.

[edit] Frequency
According to public record births database Anybirthday.com, birthdays are evenly distributed throughout the year, except for the months of October and September, which follow the holiday season by nine months. The most frequent birthday is cited as October 5, with an average of 12,576 people born each year, while the least frequent birthday is cited as May 22nd with an average of 10,259 persons born annually.[1]

Apparently it depends on where you live and what religion and culture you believe.





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