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Yeah, I support welfare but I hate how teen pregnancy can be used to abuse the system. Teen Mom and 16 and pregnant makes it worse. What do you think?
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I think a badly administered welfare system can indeed reward teen pregnancy. But didn't Bill Clinton and Newt Gingrich compromise on a federal welfare "reform" law in the 1990s that essentially ended that practice, by putting limits on how many years any single woman and her kinds can receive welfare payments?
When you talk about welfare payments "rewarding" teen pregnancy, therefore, I think you're talking about a problem that's mostly been resolved.
Except, of course, in the rhetoric of rightwing politicians who love to stir up respectable middle class people by talking about the wickedness of "welfare cheaters." When a politician has gained public office and public support by denouncing "welfare cheaters," it's probably important to keep blaming the welfare system for creating them -- whether or not they exist.
To address your point, though, the US welfare system at certain times in the past not only PERMITTED but actually ENCOURAGED single motherhood and out-of-wedlock births.
For much of the 1930-1970 period, for example, the US federal welfare system offered support payments to mothers of "dependent children," but not to fathers of such children.
Because politicians were basically cheapskates, and because conservative voters probably didn't want to subsidize poor adult men, the old Aid to Families of Dependent Children (AFDC) system ONLY paid child support payments to women who could demonstrate that they didn't have male partners living with them at the time they were receiving support.
The idea was no doubt to encourage poor women to get off welfare. But the effect in some cases was to encourage them to become single mothers, and to raise their children without any regular, legally sanctioned connection with their fathers.
Welfare case workers actually would come around the homes of welfare recipients to enforce this ban on adult men living with the mothers of dependent children. If the father of your child was found in your apartment when a caseworker dropped by, you might lose your monthly check.
Therefore, to support themselves and their children, many poor women receiving welfare made a point of not living with their male partners, which effectively broke up many low-income families.
In some communities, women receiving AFDC payments also developed a pattern of having several different male partners, none living in the home. That way, a woman might receive a separate small payment from the fathers of each one of her several children, and at Christmas time or on a child's birthday, each of the fathers might provide his own gift, large or small, to his own child.
Some welfare moms and their male partners struggled in this to find ways to have nearly "normal" family lives within the crazy AFDC rules, but in doing so, the women effectively became polygamists, and on a day to day basis their children grew up without adult male contact or adult male supervision, at least when caseworkers were around.
The flaws of the old AFDC system offer a disturbing example of how a system that was partly generous, but partly stingy, and partly supportive, but partly harshly judgmental, ended up having the perverse effect of undermining exactly the kind of settled & monagamous family life that most supporters of welfare payments -- and most critics -- both believed in.
In retrospect, a more generous system that did not punish AFDC recipients for having their partners -- and preferably husbands -- in their homes would have probably been better for the women, their male partners, and their children, not to mention US society.
I think a badly administered welfare system can indeed reward teen pregnancy. But didn't Bill Clinton and Newt Gingrich compromise on a federal welfare "reform" law in the 1990s that essentially ended that practice, by putting limits on how many years any single woman and her kinds can receive welfare payments?
When you talk about welfare payments "rewarding" teen pregnancy, therefore, I think you're talking about a problem that's mostly been resolved.
Except, of course, in the rhetoric of rightwing politicians who love to stir up respectable middle class people by talking about the wickedness of "welfare cheaters." When a politician has gained public office and public support by denouncing "welfare cheaters," it's probably important to keep blaming the welfare system for creating them -- whether or not they exist.
To address your point, though, the US welfare system at certain times in the past not only PERMITTED but actually ENCOURAGED single motherhood and out-of-wedlock births.
For much of the 1930-1970 period, for example, the US federal welfare system offered support payments to mothers of "dependent children," but not to fathers of such children.
Because politicians were basically cheapskates, and because conservative voters probably didn't want to subsidize poor adult men, the old Aid to Families of Dependent Children (AFDC) system ONLY paid child support payments to women who could demonstrate that they didn't have male partners living with them at the time they were receiving support.
The idea was no doubt to encourage poor women to get off welfare. But the effect in some cases was to encourage them to become single mothers, and to raise their children without any regular, legally sanctioned connection with their fathers.
Welfare case workers actually would come around the homes of welfare recipients to enforce this ban on adult men living with the mothers of dependent children. If the father of your child was found in your apartment when a caseworker dropped by, you might lose your monthly check.
Therefore, to support themselves and their children, many poor women receiving welfare made a point of not living with their male partners, which effectively broke up many low-income families.
In some communities, women receiving AFDC payments also developed a pattern of having several different male partners, none living in the home. That way, a woman might receive a separate small payment from the fathers of each one of her several children, and at Christmas time or on a child's birthday, each of the fathers might provide his own gift, large or small, to his own child.
Some welfare moms and their male partners struggled in this to find ways to have nearly "normal" family lives within the crazy AFDC rules, but in doing so, the women effectively became polygamists, and on a day to day basis their children grew up without adult male contact or adult male supervision, at least when caseworkers were around.
The flaws of the old AFDC system offer a disturbing example of how a system that was partly generous, but partly stingy, and partly supportive, but partly harshly judgmental, ended up having the perverse effect of undermining exactly the kind of settled & monagamous family life that most supporters of welfare payments -- and most critics -- both believed in.
In retrospect, a more generous system that did not punish AFDC recipients for having their partners -- and preferably husbands -- in their homes would have probably been better for the women, their male partners, and their children, not to mention US society.
Present idea for Pregnant woman?
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creative ideas for a husband to give his pregnant wife for her birthday?
What is a good birthday present for a husband to give a 28 year old pregnant woman. She is also the mother of a 6 month old! Price is not an issue... The thought of an all day spa excursion has already been thought of... any other thoughts or ideas?
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a gift certificate for a cleaning service to come in when ever she wants.
gift card to a maternity clothing store.
If you are sure when the new baby's birth month is going to be- maybe some kind of mommy jewelry with the kids birth stones in it- like a necklace.
I would love the spa treatment if you ask me- that would be my favorite choice!
What a nice husband you are! :)
a gift certificate for a cleaning service to come in when ever she wants.
gift card to a maternity clothing store.
If you are sure when the new baby's birth month is going to be- maybe some kind of mommy jewelry with the kids birth stones in it- like a necklace.
I would love the spa treatment if you ask me- that would be my favorite choice!
What a nice husband you are! :)
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