Jealous friend who tried to stop me from marrying. Continue friendship or keep him out my life?

Olga

This is going to be a bit long:

I got married when I was 18 in 1998. I was working in a pub where I met an old gentleman, lets call him George. He was in his late 60's and we really hit it off. Not in a sexual manner but in a friendly manner. His wife had passed away a few years before and he'd moved to the town because his daughter lived there. He didn't know anyone and we got along. By this time my marriage was on the rocks, not due to George but because my husband and I had developed a few differences (not surprisingly). George was very supportive of me and my decision to divorce. I also introduced George to my mother (divorced from my father) and grandmother. Once a week George would pop around to visit my grandma to have some tea. My mom works in a shopping mall and once a week George would pop around there as well to visit and take her to lunch. He really became part of all our lives. He was happy because he'd made new friends. Regularly George and I went out for dinner, I took him for drives through the country and we did fun things together. It was like getting grandpa out of the house for a while and letting him have some fun. He became quite ill in 2003 and spent a while in hospital. When he came back home and couldn't go anywhere I used to get us some nice takeaways and visit him.

I went to study when I was 21 and still kept in close contact with him. Over weekends we'd go places and I got him out the house. When I was 26 I met a man whom I married in 2006. During this time I still kept in contact with George on a daily basis. My husband didn't mind and welcomed his visits. I just want you to get the idea that George and I were strictly friends, and that he was in a sense part of the family even though not by blood. Almost like a father/grandfather who I never had. Then my husband passed away of cancer unexpectedly in 2008 and George seemed strangely pleased

I was lucky enough to meet a wonderful man just a few months after my husband passed away. We were just friends but the relationship later blossomed into something more. Of course George was still part of my (and my family's) life and my partner viewed him as part of the family. All went well until I told George that my partner and I planned to marry in November 2010.

Then all hell broke loose. It was also my birthday in November and George decided that he would spend over 7000 bucks for my birthday present (money he definitely didn't have to spend on anything, never mind a birthday gift). This came out of the blue. In previous years he'd always given me some money (never this amount) which I could use to buy something I liked at a later stage.

So when he got news of my impending marriage he suddenly blows a HUGE amount of money. And then he let loose about my husband, whom he had only ever met once. He said that I was making a huge mistake, that my husband was worthless, that he was trying to manipulate me into marrying him. He said that I should reconsider getting married, that this was a bad idea. Suddenly the old man who had been my friend for over 10 years turned nasty. I then put two and two together (I'm a bit slow) and the signs had been there over the years, that George wanted more than friendship. He never ever said it outright but he wanted me to be with him and him alone. He sent my mom text messages to try and convince me not to go ahead with the wedding.

Then I became cross. I confronted him and he sheepishly admitted that he was in love with me. I found this all really shocking, because the man who'd been my 'grandpa' over the last 10 years, and part of the family, was hopelessly in love with me. Because of the nastiness and ugliness which he expressed about the marriage I cut off contact with him. I told him that he was no longer invited to the wedding and that I could not continue a friendship/relationship with him any longer since it was all a farce. He then wanted to give me the birthday present that he'd spent so much money on. I told him that I could not accept it (it was a Kruger rand in a setting and a gold necklace). He said that if I could wear another man's wedding ring then I could wear his jewelry too.

With that, I left him with his Kruger rand and haven't seen him since. My mom also went to see him and told him that under these circumstances she could also not continue her friendship with him. It's now been 6 months and he still contacts me, sending "I love you" and "I miss you". I don't reply.

I feel a bit guilty about all this now, even though my mom and my husband said I shouldn't, since George was the one in the wrong.

Now for the question: under these circumstances, do you think that I should get back into contact with him and try to salvage what is left of our 'friendship', or continue to ignore him and keep him cut out of my lif

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The story looked SO long. I didn't want to read it but I'm glad I did. OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!! He likes you , and he's like in his late 70s. I understand that he wanted to tell you what was in his heart, but after a whole decade of you seeing him as a grandfather, and the age difference between you two, he is being EXTREMELY SELFISH to say that you should love him back or anything else along those lines. This is completely gross and you should avoid him for the rest of your life. OMG!!
By the way, I know I'm being a bit rude about him, but he IS too old to even consider a relationship more than friendship. AVOID HIM, THERE IS NO ALTERNATIVE.

My parents are going to a 60 year old man and his 63 year old sisters birthday party. What to get them?

pinkprince

His sister is mentally retarted and uses a wheelchair. What should my parents and where should they get it from? Any ideas?
Thanks

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Gift card to a nice restaurant? Box of chocolates? Movie ticket passes. Whatever hobby or interests, get something for that. Whatever you'd get anyone else in that age group.

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Can anyone give me some good ideas of things to make as christmas gifts? Money is rather tight!!!?

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JOANNE C

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Garage sales, fetes, and charity shops are fantastic for bargains. You should start gathering stuff straight after Christmas at the Christmas sales. Same with birthday presents. If things are really tight, space out your socialising at Christmas and when your Auntie gives you something, give it to your girlfriend and so on. One year I took a photo of myself nude and put glitter glue and holly stickers over the rude bits and made Christmas cards and rubberstamped the inside with the words MERRY CHRISTMAS. They were such a huge hit that I sold them in boxes of 6. Just remember, anything moist like glue makes the paper curl so no big dollops. I have done this for 3 years in a row and made two calendars as well (photos round the house and garden, and photos on overseas trips) (me naked in Glasgow, naked on the pyramids, etc) but trying to put a different pose on each month made it expensive ($60 per calendar) and I made no profit on the calendars. For sedate friends I made Christmas cards from black and white photocopies of photos of myself on Santa's knee at age 5. But the worst thing was, I didn't put my glasses on and didn't notice that the date had been faintly pencilled on the photo margin by my mother. And it came out even darker on the photocopy but still so faint I didn't notice it. Everyone found out I had been lying about my age for years.

Put Christmas paper around tins and put succulent cuttings in them with really cheap Christmas earrings hanging off the "branches" as decorations as tho they were little Christmas trees. A man I know gave all his women friends home made gift vouchers for massages. None were redeemed but it caused a lot of mirth. The best presents are ones that will be used every day by the receiver cos every time they touch them they will think of you. My Aunt gave me an assemble-it-yourself marble upright kitchen paper towel holder. It is just a thick marble disk with a marble pole thing coming up from the middle of it. Every time I yank a piece of paper from the roll I think of her. I bought a skull for a dollar at a garage sale and gave it to my doctor and he keeps it on his desk. When anyone asks my lawyer at a social event, for any legal advice, he says METER'S RUNNING! to warn them he might bill them. From a scrap metal yard I got him an outdated parking meter which works, and he has it mounted next to his desk. When I told them the story behind the gift, they gave it to me free. The zoo sells bags of manure cheap, from the animal cages and calls it ZOO POO and this causes good reactions when you give these for gifts. A friend of mine and I were invited to this rich person's place for his birthday and we were broke. We thought we would get him something later, and look at his tastes first. There were loads of people there in the house and garden. We were shown over the house by his partner when we arrived and saw they had an antique vacuum cleaner museum. We slipped out of the party, sped back to a deceased estate's storeroom that belonged to my family and got the oldest vacky in the world, ran a wet rag all over it and took it back to the party and dingdonged the doorbell. When he opened the door he went ga-gaa over the gift and said HOW DID YOU KNOW I COLLECTED THESE? It turned out to be one of the oldest in his set and it was the hit of the party.

If you give someone jewellery, and they like it, they will wear it every day and remember you gave it to them.

You can make jewellery yourself out of bits and pieces of broken jewellery but you have to have flair and some craft books from the library and friends who appreciate that sort of thing.

Christmas decorations are good to give, especially a box of string lights, but that is getting up to the $10 mark. My Aunt gave me a tin angel which comes out every Christmas for the table and has very sharp edges which I have managed to stay clear of.

One couple gave me a near-life-size stuffed toy gorilla that they got at a charity shop, and a designer jacket which is so beautiful. I have dressed as Santa and visited friends on Christmas day and gasbagged to their children and their children's friends. Also at Halloween I dressed as a witch for some friends' children and answered their door for trick or treat. I had kids screaming and running backwards into each other I was so scary. The first time I opened the door the kids were so upset and screaming that I got a fright too and actually wet myself so I couldn't sit down the rest of the night. But the second and subsequent times, I got used to it.

Get cheap frames and cut out pics of film stars from magazines and sign the pics in flourishing black texta pen TO SUSIE WITH LOVE FROM BRAD, NICE MEETING YOU XXX (a pic of Brad Pitt). These were a great hit and look like real photos if you have glass over them. In some mags the film stars pose properly for the cameras so don't get a pic of Britney walking along the street eating an icypole.

If you can make Christmas fruit cakes, and can cover them with plastic icing, make a frill for round the bottom to cover where the ragged bottom meets the board, out of silver or gold cupcake paper holders. Cut the round bottom out of them, then don't let the lining fall away cos it adds stiffness, cut the remainder into two or four strips and push the top up into the icing in scollop (spelling?) pattern. Overlap the side edges. One or two of the first ones will look messy maybe, but by the time you have finished all round the cake, it will look good. If your first cake looks really messy, do two rows, the one above to hide the joins of the row below. If you had stiff gold paper doyleys you could use these instead. Long as they have a sharp stiff edge to stick into the icing.

Some perfumes at Asian shops or big department stores, have funny names. They might not smell like French perfumes but surprisingly for cheap perfumes, the packaging is nice. I got a few bottles of perfume where the packaging looked very classy and it was called NO! This caused a lot of merriment.

Just hours before closing on Christmas Eve, a supermarket near me reduced their Christmas puddings to 80cents each, and their big trees to $5. If you see a small shop open really late on Christmas eve, the owner is desperate to get rid of their Christmas stock so go in there and they will even offer you a drink while you are looking around!

My Uncle went into hospital and I gave him soap and a water pistol so he could give himself bedbaths.

Get metal serving trays from home or garage sales, doesn't matter if they are all scratched, as long as they are not buckled. If the edges are wavy and not just straight, even better. Paint it roughly with a couple of coats of different colour paints and put a couple of holes in it and hang it with fancy cord. This is a metal board now for magnets. Put a magnet on it with a note saying MERRY CHRISTMAS etc.

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What would be an appropriate and nice gift for my Dad, for his 60th birthday?

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missymommy

Me and my two daughters are going to surprise my Dad on his 60th birthday at a surprise dinner my Mom and brother are planning for him (we live 1500 miles away from him & he has no idea we are coming). I want to bring him something special, a nice gift, but I have no idea on what to get a 60 year old man. Any ideas or suggestions??? By the way he's a fishing fanatic.

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Personally, he's probably going to appreciate the thought more then the money spent. PLUS the traveling to be with him. I would suggest you making a video tape of people sharing their favorite memory they have that involves him. That way he is feeling great and still seeing your faces. If you don't have access to a video camera you can write a letter explaining your favorite memory. You might want to get him a new fishing hook and explain how he's a great catch and you're happy he's your dad or something.

My parents are going to a 60 year old man and his 63 year old sisters birthday party. What to get them?

pinkprince

His sister is mentally retarted and uses a wheelchair. What should my parents and where should they get it from? Any ideas?
Thanks

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Gift card to a nice restaurant? Box of chocolates? Movie ticket passes. Whatever hobby or interests, get something for that. Whatever you'd get anyone else in that age group.

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